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26 June 2011 @ 04:08 am
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I have no idea what I'm doing.

Seriously. I feel like someone forgot to hand me the manual on life. Or at least a general how-to guide. I feel like I'm completely wasting my life and ten years from now I'm going to wish I went out more or did something other than sit online all day, ever day...not that I have any means to go out since I have no job, no car, no friends with cars.

On top of that, I don't really feel like I belong anywhere. I've always had a major problem fitting in. Even when I finally made a group of friends my senior year of high school, I always felt like I was on the edge of them. I feel like an outsider in practically everything. Online in RP, in the cosplay world, the few times I'm with friends, even in my family.

Now more than ever, I wish I had the means to move out. I have nothing in common with anybody in my family. I found out recently that my dad doesn't even really like talking to me because I only talk about stuff I like. How the hell am I supposed to talk to him when all he does is grunt or something when I ask him stuff? My stepmother's an ass and my stepsister's an even worse sponge than I am. My sister's the only one in my family I like being around, and that's because she understands when I need to be alone and can relate to this family lamery. And she doesn't care if I leave cosplay crap sitting around for a little while and isn't all OMG PUT IT AWAY RIGHT NOW OR THE WORLD WILL IMPLODE.

But even so...I just feel incredibly alone. Even online - I'm stupidly shy about IMing people to start conversations, so sometimes I don't talk to someone even when I want to. And other times, everything I think of to say sounds stupid, so I don't say anything and it lapses into silence. I can't remember the last time I saw a friend and we did something fun that wasn't job-hunting related. The high point of my day is playing LBP with Zee and talking to her later on. I have pretty much nothing else to look forward to.

What's sick is that even if I had friends lavishing attention on me constantly, it probably wouldn't be enough. I've been alone for so long that once someone pays attention to me, I latch onto it and probably scare them away. I could say that I haven't scared off Bouncy yet, but I haven't talked to her properly in months, so I guess that remains to be seen.

I hate feeling like I don't have anything in common with anybody. I hate that I'm too weird/socially awkward to keep friends because I have no idea what to do or say. I hate feeling like I'm starved for affection and I'll be forever alone since I'm so weird. I hate that I'm genuinely so down on myself that when someone compliments me, it feels like they're making fun of me or they're humoring me, but I revel in it and want to hear it over and over like I'll never hear anything positive about myself again.

I just...I want to live my life. I feel like I've been stuck in a rut for the past five years. The occasional convention/new video game/trip to Orlando will distract me for a little while until I settle back into a rut and I feverishly look forward to that new thing that will distract me from every single day being exactly the same.

People think I'm exaggerating when I say that, but it's true. I get up, shower, do the same thing in the same order online for about an hour, game for a few hours, stay online until 4am, and game for an hour or so before getting to sleep and waking up to do it all over again. Almost every day I'm physically around the exact same depressing people that wonder why I'm addicted to the internet. Maybe because the internet gives me some kind of change in my life, even just a little.

Bah. I feel lame since I rarely update anymore due to being distracted by tumblrweeds and this post is allllll over the place, but my head's about to explode and I guess I had to get it out somehow.

Current Mood: pessimisticpessimistic
Current Music: Ragnarok//FFXIII OST
you know it's getting boring, right?aurons_fan on June 26th, 2011 05:12 pm (UTC)
I will post a better comment when i can get to a computer.
you know it's getting boring, right?: Axel [Whee!]aurons_fan on June 27th, 2011 02:54 am (UTC)
Okay. FIRST OFF *so many huggles* But afterwards, I have so much word on the socially awkward part. It was so bad in high school that most of my friends quickly became my boyfriends' friends and when we broke up I lost a lot of friends. So I had to learn how to make friends and quickly and honestly it just wasn't worth it.

AND THEN omg. Last year was so awkward. Because when you're socially awkward and that socially awkward response is to talk to a lot of people, you're know as that awkward person who talks to a lot of people.

So what I just said hasn't helped, just me rambling.

Basically, I love you a ton. It is incredibly hard for a lot of people to meet others/talk to others so you're totally not alone. Just, I dunno. Make random conversation. A lot of times, I've learned that if people aren't talking to you, sometimes, they want to but don't know what to say.

Jobs don't grow on trees so good luck! But I echo what fantasia said - You do make some awesome things (I still get complements on my heartless earrings, btw. <3) it may not be a lot of money, but maybe it could be a start.

ALSO AS I RAMBLE. on the topic of talking with your dad. I don't know how my rambling helps, but I have had a lot of problems talking with my dad recently because we just have nothing in common. Evar. And since he's unemployed, he's always home and always around. So I decided to FORCE MY FANDOM ONTO HIM - okay that's a lie. Basically, we found a middle ground. Like, he loves Sherlock Holmes, I was watching the new Sherlock show, so we watched an episode together. Or a movie that I know he likes and I've never seen. Or he wanted to go to the movies and I wanted to see the glory that is X-Men first class.
Basically just find something that you can both possibly like. I mean, it doesn't have to be for the same reason (Dad: likes Sherlock Holmes because of his sleuthing. Brie: The slash), but it is something that we both can talk about and is rare.

also I LOVE YOU and YOU'RE NOT LAME. <3 I've known you for a zillion years (actually I have no idea how long. OH MYYYY) and if I lived closer, I'd visit you every day.
but I <3333 you and I hope things look up and I still <3 you.